Place written: Somewhere In Costa Rica
Date: Sunday April 8, 2018
These blogs that I write have always arrived at some point in a conversation I’ve had with someone
Either something the person said or even I said triggered a thought or just brought me back to whatever I went through or going through
I’m constantly battling these thoughts in my mind about becoming a better me, overcoming obstacles, trying to believe more positive than negative, trying to figure myself out while maintaining the relationships I have with people
My mind always wanders
And ever since I could remember my life has been a whirlwind; growing up I had this crazy crazy idea that parents like my mother and father just never got married but my aunts and uncles were married
I automatically assumed that my friends would be in the same predicament I was in
So in my mind I truly and honestly believed that moms and dads were not married but aunts and uncles were
I always wondered if another family in the world were living like us
Did their mom work the same job my mom did?
Did there fathers get sick when they were 3 too?
Years down the line, when my mother passed I wondered if kids my age lost their mom at the same age I did
And with all the friends I had or hung out with the most, everyone had a different story
Everyone comes from a different walk of life
Everyone has a story
Everyone has a past
“Your friend is fighting battles we know nothing about”
Unknown
“Everyone has a story they don’t want to read out loud”
Unknown
These unknown quotes ring in my head all the time and brings me to this topic I wanted to share but kept adding more details.
It’s just funny how life happens though
In my mind, I picture things a certain way
I definitely work towards it
But in reality I’m scared
I’m always scared to fail
I’m afraid to do wrong by my child
I’m afraid to let her down
I’m afraid that I’m not good enough or because I am the way that I am; just anything to doubt myself
Growing up; I envisioned certain things becoming my reality and I trained my mind after having my baby that I wanted to be different
We train our minds to believe whatever we want it to believe
People talk themselves into believing things we don’t even want to believe
It also bought me to thinking about some of the people I surrounded myself with or got involved with
How the things we go through molds us into the people we end up becoming
The way we treat people stems from how we were once treated
It’s like the saying, if you know better, you do better but if you don’t then what?
How we are; I see my mom in me in a lot of ways
Even the way I’m raising my child
My thoughts on being married or not married
How we treat the people we love; do we treat them with love
How we are raised in our households
The things we go through affects psychologically more than we believe or know
But what we have been through should be lessons & mistakes we should be able to throw away, right? But it’s not as easy as you think it is unless you’ve been through it; and I can definitely attest to that
They say forget what made you cry and focus on what’s ahead
But Believe it OR not; we are what we consume, we are the energy we let around us and we ARE a product of our environment; it molds us to be who we are
It gives us something to look back on
To take a step back and regain focus as to why you work so hard
Why you would rather work overtime to do things you love and then you have people who don’t have those visions
It makes us become better people
*If not for myself, then for NO ONE*
AND In this thought process, I’ve come to conclude that your past can make OR break your future. We can linger on about the past all we want. However; please remember the saying “We are who we are, but don’t let your past determine your future”
A constant battle I’m forever praying for
to become better for myself and for the people I surround myself with to become better
With how our past affects us
Being more positive and learning from it all
for the people we love and to leave the generation moving forward with good thoughts and better things to grow up on
Morals we didn’t get to instill from our parents, we can be different
Do it for the generation coming up
And in the same breath please also remember that I am a product of progressing to progress because every day I regress but I have to pray to see the bigger picture and let my future be a happier place